Will the pain ever go away?
The loss of a loved one upends our life and can leave us feeling devastated. We may experience anxiety, flashbacks, disturbing dreams, the inability to concentrate, consumed by pain, and feel quite alone.
If you’re here, it may be because you’ve experienced a significant emotional loss and now you are looking for a bereavement counsellor, grief coach, or just about anything to help you feel better.
The Grief Recovery Method teaches you the correct actions so you don’t have to hopelessly live in pain. As an Advanced Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, I promise to you individual and confidential support.
Do you feel as though no one understands what you are going through? Do you understand what is happening to you? Grief is not a psychological disorder – it is actually a brain dysfunction. Your brain has been experiencing chronic stress. In short, your brain is protecting you from becoming overwhelmed. As you know, this pain of loss can be unbearable and can seriously affect your ability to have a happy, healthy life.
Though grief is natural following a bereavement or any other personal loss, we have been taught to deal with it intellectually and not from an emotional place.
You can’t fix a feeling using a rational argument. Have you noticed that your friend, family and sadly professionals don’t seem to understand how you are feeling? Does this sentence sound familiar ..“don’t be upset, at least she’s in a better place now”?
Though grief is natural following a bereavement or any other personal loss, we have been taught to deal with it intellectually and not from an emotional place.
You can’t fix a feeling using a rational argument. Have you noticed that your friend, family and sadly professionals don’t seem to understand how you are feeling? Does this sentence sound familiar ..“don’t be upset, at least she’s in a better place now”?
While this statement may be partially true, it is meaningless. The person you are speaking with has moved the subject away from your feelings and on to those of the person who died. This intellectualization of grief is so endemic we barely notice it anymore.
Grief is not a psychological disorder
Even though trauma which leads to loss is a normal part of life, the symptoms of grief can make you feel like you’ve lost your mind.
Insomnia, inability to concentrate, physical symptoms such as weight loss or weight gain and inexplicable pain or injury are all common to the grieving process and can have you running to your nearest doctor for help.
But bereavement is not a psychological condition, even though it may feel like it at times. We are unable to cope with the pain of a significant loss because we haven’t been taught how.
While we often get some comfort from talking to others who have also been bereaved, or talking about our loved one in therapy, the pain can stick around for years and we don’t understand why.
Most of what we’ve been told about grief isn’t true
here are six myths associated with loss:
- If you’re going to cry, go to your room…
- Don’t feel bad, they wouldn’t have wanted you to be sad…
- Are you going to get a new dog?
- You need to be strong for the kids…
- You need to find a new hobby to get your mind off it…
- Just give it time…
How many times have we received well-meaning comments like these in response to our grief?
The intentions are good, but they don’t help us feel better.
Don’t keep living in pain – Start feeling better now
Feeling better is not about forgetting or pretending the loss never happened. Feeling better is about relieving the emotional pain you are carrying with you so that you can start sleeping better, concentrating, eating and even find joy in your life again.
Once you’ve learned the action steps for handling your grief, you can cherish the memories of your loved one without it turning painful.
The Grief Recovery Method is the only program of its kind that has been proven effective at helping grievers with their feelings of grief.
Working with you online, you will have a safe space to talk freely about your loss without judgment or analysis.
This unique, structured programme is completed in 7-8 sessions and will teach you exactly what to do so you no longer have to wait for your grief to get better on its own.
Want to find out more and move past the pain of loss? Book a call today.